First, I would like to thank Amber Naslund (@ambercadabra on twitter… follow her cuz she’s awesome) for this thought that inspires this particular post.
You can read the quote here.
It gets me thinking about things. Not just social media (which wasn’t her intent anyway), but about people in general. We have the idea that falsehood is so entrenched into everyday life and our interactions with the world around us that we see honesty – pure honesty – as abnormal and even scary.
Why? Why should it be abnormal for people to say what they mean and to have integrity? I don’t think it should, but you would expect that. We all would. That’s my point. It shouldn’t be refreshing when someone is honest; it should be shocking when someone isn’t. Again, you nod your head and agree, but five minutes from now, if you see that someone is caught up in scandal, you will passively acknowledge it is “that’s how things are” while the person that passes by you, genuinely happy with their lives gets a look of disdain, “they’re not being real if they’re that happy”…
You get the idea.
This is where I want to say something like, “Let’s start a revolution of honesty in our lives personal and professional”, but you know what? I’m not going to do that because I think it is stupid that we should need to even say that… or say “be real” for that matter.
On a side note, being real doesn’t mean being an ass. Yes, I said that. We take people as being real when they blatantly disregard feelings and say things, angrily, that also happen to be true. That has nothing to do with telling the truth and furthermore doesn’t help communicate truth to anyone that hears it.
Maybe it is also refreshing to hear someone tell the pure truth without being a douche. That I could more readily believe.
Like I said, I won’t suggest some kind of revolution, so how about I suggest something a little less flashy: why don’t we try acting like we have common sense, decency and integrity like we’re supposed to anyway?
Yeah… I like that idea.
What do you think?